Dear Pandemic Mama

Dear Pandemic Mama,

Here’s the secret no one is talking about. You are raising the change makers. Your courage and strength is what’s changing the world right now. It’s as if someone came down from the heavens to let you know that you are birthing “the chosen one”. But, it’s true, all the children coming in during this pandemic, are specifically chosen, and here to elevate humanity. So what does that mean? It means you have the world on your shoulders, it means you may feel like you are sometimes losing your mind on top of just being a “normal” mom. It can make you feel alone and of course, super hard on yourself. Here are some tips to ease the anxiety as a mom during this time.

~ Say out loud exactly how you feel. First step to moving towards some calm, is simply to admit the current energy you are in and let yourself be heard. If you have a child, you very well know, they sometimes just need you to hear them. Acknowledge how you feel first, put the shame away, and work on being ok with whatever it is you are feeling, you are not alone. My Stage 1 Practice is the perfect guide for this.

~ Create the world you want to live in at home.  It’s a conscious choice to wake up every day and create your reality through joy, fun, and love, and tune out the external world. No that does not mean, you don’t read what’s going on, know what’s going on, but choose to create silliness for the day, do fun art, you may even heal your own inner child while you are at it.

~Eat Well! Moms need a lot of calories, whether you are growing a baby inside of you, breastfeeding, or just running after toddlers, you must eat. I am a huge believer that about 80% of anxiety can be fixed by simply eating enough. Most women in are society today under eat which can cause the body to go into fight or flight, which we don’t need more of right now. Regulate your blood sugar by eating nutrient dense foods every 2-3 hours.  You will feel so much better and have the energy to enjoy your days. For an organized meal plan and loads of recipes, you can access my Post Partum Nutritional Plan here.

~Find a therapist, life coach, healer, that YOU can lean on. Mama’s need someone to hold space for them too. Even if it’s for an hour. Speak how you feel, voice your fears, let yourself energetically vomit what you need while being witnessed.

~It takes a village, ask for help when you need. Assign a couple of friends or family members to be on alert if you need. Don’t be scared to ask a friend over for 30 minutes so you can take a bath, shower, or eat a meal slowly. If you're pregnant, it can be pretty isolating at times, create your village now, ask people to be there for you, people LOVE to show up and help, especially during these times. The world is moving towards interdependence, so leave the self sufficient women ideas go, it’s time.

~Find your breathing practices, whether that’s movement, or meditation, breath work, yoga, etc. Commit to doing this daily. Take turns with your partner so you have the space to fill your cup.

~Recognize this is a season, “this too shall pass”, the world will not be this way forever, this is a time in history that we will move out of and you will be stronger because of it. 

~Be easy on yourself, notice your pull to perfectionism, and let go. It’s ok to be tired, it’s ok to throw your hair in a bun, it’s ok to let your child watch a screen, their DNA has evolved to handle it. 

~Prayer, connect to something bigger than you, pray for the world, for your family, for more strength and ease. Prayer can create miracles.  

If you need further support please visit my shop for guided tools. You got this mama!